I paced!

And I seriously don't pace, that was how worked up/nervous I was over last night. I knew I hadn't picked out a serial killer, or even a rock varmint hunter, but it didn't really help my physical response to the situation. Luckily, I was able to yammer at Emily for over 2 hours until I had to leave.

I get there ard purposefully park away from the usual parking lot and instead park around the side of the bar - serious background thought was that if he was icky, I could say good-bye and wouldn't have to walk to our cars together. Turned out I was five minutes early and he was already there. I was hand shakingly nervous at first, but finally started to calm down. Also, shaking hands at first was awkward and I will not try that again... He was not ugly or even way different from his photos, so I was pleased by that. Although, it did make me wonder if my photos were different from the way I look enough that he was just not that into me (thanks Greg Behrendt).

We ended up talking for about 2 hours, and while occasionally awkward, nervous, or a bit boring/forced, it overall was pretty good. I was told by Emily that if I didn't expect it to be any of the above, I was just being foolish. I also think that our conversation started out with two 'tester' talks. The first was him showing me the local independent paper and a couple of bands he wouldn't mind seeing. Which I didn't commit to and told him I don't know them, but pointed out the two bands I want to see who are coming in March. Then, he told me about going out with his friends to a strip club. Yes, yes, you figure this is the point where you think 'douche', but really very little phases me (pinky ring and matching bracelet, yes, strip club no). And it was a pretty funny story about a CL posting for a girl's bday party and wanting a dirty clown, his friend who wanted to do it for the party (not that he's a clown or even own's a clownsuit, but eventually didn't do it), which was who they bumped into at the strip club. I think at the end of the evening we talked more about him than me, he never asked about my current relationship status (being seperated and all), and he had a few uncomfortable personal similarities to my ex in terms of taste in music, books, and a distaste for sports. He also called a band I like 'easy listening', which was totally unfair and I told him so (so there!). At the end of the evening we both said we'd like to see each other again (or I would have used Emily's line - sorry, I'm really busy for the next month). We agreed to share real email info, and so I sent him an email from my real account this morning and already have a response. I don't think he's going to have the cajones to go out with the ladies on Friday night, but he did say he'd see what was up and if not, then next week... Anyway, it has possibilities. I didn't feel an instant connection, but I do think he's cute and would be at the very least, worth getting to know (biblically if you know what I mean.). Heh.

Oh, and I'm not in love Emily do not worry! I still have the plan that we will open some kind of business (possibly construction) together, meet our true loves at the same time, defeat some kind of mythical evil, and live hapily ever after - by Nora Roberts.

Little Red Flags

I am nervous tonight not because of my own life. I am at home, just finished watching a Harry Potter movie and writing a blog about a dating life that I don't really up and running as of yet. No, I am nervous because as I write Sara is on her first date in a decade. She spent two hours preceding said event in my kitchen talking much faster than normal. (If you have ever spoken with her you will understand that I only caught 25% as opposed to the normal 50% of what she said.) I called her a few minutes ago and told her to say Tequila if she was in a dangerous situation. She did not so I think she is fine. In fact I am pretty sure I heard some giggling. It may have been him, but its a good sign either way. However if in fact she is able to find true love this soon after the "separation" I will find a way to seduce him so that they break up. I refuse to be alone all by myself.
So, I have been emailing cute divorced dad today. He isn't actually divorced. He just lived in sin and now has a baby mama. So now I will just call him...Jim. That's not his name but I can't go with cute dad. That's just creepy. "Jim" lived in my dream state for three years and appears to be a honorable man. He shares custody of his daughter 50/50 with his baby mama. So far I have gathered that he has a least one dog and a job with technology, perhaps even computers. He asks a lot of questions, so my emails back are long. I have to reread them over and over because I question everything I write. He did ask me to IM with him, which in an Internet relationship is HUGE.
Sexy Musician emailed back as well. He described his music as dark, which has on increased his bad boy persona that I have built up in my head. He seems a little selfish as he only talked about himself and didn't ask me any questions. If only I would read that little red flag and abort. But I know full well that I will keep plugging along thinking that he'll write a song about me. I can swoon from the audience with hundreds of jealous women listening to his beautiful tribute to me. This is the world that I make up for myself when I am battling my insomnia at 3am.
Sara's college buddy hasn't returned my email from last night. I did say that I kept dead dogs around the house, but he would know that I was joking, right?

Going after it

So as I said last night the plan was a success. I have had a lot of activity. There have been the winks and emails of the "what were you thinking" crowd, but I have gotten two emails and wink back from some pretty cool guys.
I winked at this one guy that I thought had a cool black and white picture. When you are hunting out twenty men to wink at in one night, you go from reading profiles to skimming them. Well he emailed me and I actually read his profile. It turns out that Sara knows him because he is in her program. She informed me that he wasn't a killer, so I emailed him back. We have exchanged some interesting emails. He is pretty funny. I think I'll keep him around.
Another guy that I winked at emailed me as well. He is a divorced dad of one. We talked about if the wii fit was good for kids. I haven't heard from him since I emailed last night. He seemed nice and not creepy. I kinda hope to hear from him again.
The last notable guy is this super cute musician. I noticed him the first night that Sara and I came up with the 30 day match plan. He talks about not going along with the dominant social paradigm. That may turn most women off but I have a tendency to attract men with some sort of emotional handicap (not you Peter Pan, you are perfect) so he might be the one.
So I guess the lesson to be learned is that if you want something to happen, go after it. Maybe I am just to awesome and they are scared to communicate with me. I can handle that...

update: The cute divorced dad emailed me while I was writing this...

And so it begins...

A little over a week on this match.com thing and I've been viewed over 700 times, but few current winks or leads. I decided to take some of Emily's advice and I went ahead and searched for some guys and winked at a few. They've looked at my profile and I guess are currently debating if I am worth it or not to wink back or write. Primarily, this is mostly like being the popular girl in high school that I never was, so I am enjoying it for that. I also think that internet stuff almost never works out, unless your expectations are very low. I think most of us, especially after a few rewarding emails back and forth, think 'ah-ha, I have met someone cool' and we expect their physical appearance to match up... and while not recently, but definitely many moons ago before I was married, this was definitely the case. Good on the internet (paper), not so good in person. Then again, that could be me as well...

Speaking of good in person or not, tomorrow is my first 'official' procuring a frosty beverage with a gentleman of potential romantic interest. RR guy and I are meeting at a local bar at 8:15pm, he has cracked a Top Gun reference (the Maverick thing) that I did not get right away - and I'm pretty sure there was the removal of 2 points for even making a slight reference to Tom Cruise. I am a bit nervous, but also figure unless he is drop dead gorgeous, I'm pretty extroverted and it should be fun for an hour or two. Intrepid reporter 'L' gave me some advice that these match.com dates could go from getting up and leaving after 5 minutes to making out in the car to "more". Well, slutty slutty, and I bet I know who that was (and not 'L'). The funny part was that I just asked about how do I greet said date-handshake, hug, side-face kiss? I doubt tomorrow will go much farther than enjoyable conversation. I'm not sure right now I could handle more than just chillin' together, although I probably need the S-E-X about as badly as any lady (heh, lady).

Wrote foreign guy back, no response so far. I also have been in correspondence (well, two emails) with a local guy who sounds interesting. He's familiar and somewhat a fan of goth music (yay), likes to travel, and has some mysterious govt. job he hasn't let me in on yet. Do they relocate spy's to the RTP area?

Tired and Successful

So the plan worked beautifully. I was viewed 125 times today received three winks/emails back from the spree last night and two unsolicited winks. However I am super tired and will give all the details out tomorrow.

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Not much to report today. I still have two emails left to answer and a date for a drink to set up for Wed. or Thu. I would have done it, but my ex wrecked my afternoon by pulling his crazy shit via email and just wound me up. I would normally recognize it for what it is, but I haven't been sleeping well and when tired, my emotions hit closer to the surface. So, I also lack any winks today, but the Rockabilly/Brian Setzer looking guy I wrote last week, and who never wrote me back, looks at my profile every couple of days. Maybe he forgets until he reads my profile that he doesn't like me? In fact, I have many looks but my awesome badass-ed-ness apparently makes them worried that I would, in fact, be more cool than they are... hence, no contact. Oh well, I think I can live with that.

Nothin' says sexy like your faceless torso.

Classy and sophisticated woman of color wanted - 25 (Southpoint)

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Date: 2009-01-26, 9:02AM EST


I will keep this short so if i pique your interest, i would love to hear from you... ;) I am 24, Italian and armenian, 6 foot and 200lbs. I am affectionate, romantic, careing, funny, loyal and I like to enjoy myself and have a good time. I like to watch movies especially comidies, cook, listen to hip-hop, and go out. I am looking for a relationship that could potentially get serious if the right one comes along but by no means am i desperate or forcing anything and I have always loved women of color so this is not some experiement...lol I work as a software sales rep in cary so if you like what you hear then hit me back with a few pics and more about you and we can go from there!

Also, I have plenty of pics for exchange. please no BBW's, MEN, or women over 35