Step up or shut up time.

I am on dilemma road now. I've been talking with the R. Reynolds looking guy and foreign guy most on match.com. So, RR guy is 39, DWM, and has said in his profile that he has a mortgage (and I assume he has a house and lives in it, instead of just paying for his ex's?). He also has a teenage son, a job doing about the same thing my ex does (how freakin' odd is that), and is absolutely hilarious. In his photos, he doesn't look like my type, and our music tastes are pretty much polar opposites. Although, in his favor he did mention he went to see Rent last night - do straight guys do that kind of thing willingly? I don't think that many... So, he's finally broached the topic of getting a drink this week. Now, I'm in a slight state of panic - I haven't dated in MORE THAN 12 YEARS! Wtf do you talk about on a match.com date? Where do you go? Should you bring friends? I am making myself more than a bit crazy thinking about it and haven't had the cajones to write him back and answer his question.

Foreign guy's last message to me seemed kind of dismissive as he said he'd get a hold of me when he got back in the country and that he was going to see if there really was an ABBA museum (since he's in Sweden and I brought up the creepy possibility). Not that either of us remotely likes ABBA (or at least he hasn't admitted it to me). Well, I sent him a response that was funny and just nonchalant like 'well let me know when you get back' with no 'let's get coffe, a drink, dinner' because I think I like the protective bubble of the internet on my dating life so far. Well, foreign guy wrote me today, sent me a link to the ABBA museum, and asked if I wanted something from the gift shop. This guy has totally got 'cute and thoughtful' cornered. He's also about the same age as RR, no kids, never been married (do you think there is something wrong with him? Possibly just picky?).

I also have been talking with a grad student from a nearby university, but I haven't written him back as his last email was rather odd. I'm not even sure I'd want to go out with him anytime soon for coffee as he seems super chatty and a bit on the socially inept side. Although, his photos don't look bad.

Here I am home by myself on a Saturday night. My big plans are to work on schoolwork, but it seems like reading a mystery novel and watching romantic movies on TV have taken over. Like a pinball rattling around my head, I've realized I have to cross the bridge and begin interacting in the real world with men on date-type activities. Dear god help me.