Long strange trip...

It's been more than a few days since posting... I have been busy with L in town and trying to accomplish important (non match.com related) things in my life.

So, date on Wed. went well and well enough for me to continue talking to him last week. In fact, while L was in town, he suggested a venue playing live music and Emily, L, and I all went out and he met us there. I got the thumbs-up from both L and Emily, who of course put me in a high school awkward situation at the end. During the venue, I talked with RR guy but it was loud and so mostly concert talk (if that makes any sense). I didn't feel an overwhelming connection with him on Wed., nor on Friday night, but he seems like a nice and interesting guy. After the concert was over, we all wandered outside as the crowd dispersed, and instead of L and Emily staying around to say good-bye, they both wandered over to stare at the stickers on the back of a street sign - like that was totally unobtrusive and not at all overtly high school-esque. Seriously, if he was going to kiss me, put a move on me, etc., he should totally have the balls to do it in front of my friends - no street sign wandering away necessary!

Friday night I also learned a few things about him that make me a bit gun-shy. First, and my sister has warned me about these types of boys - they like the fast moving zombies. In fact, he was so adamant about it, he insulted my zombie aficionado sister by calling her a "traditionalist in the worst sense of the word" and knowing that she teaches high school that "he fears for the next generation of children under her care" because of this zombie traditionalism. Yes, yes I know sister, if you were here it would be 'on', and if I am still seeing him in a boyfriend or friend way, it will still be 'on' when you come out to visit. I warned him that these statements would cause him to be "kicked apart", and he stood by his opinion. The other things that made me a bit nervous were some similarities to my ex - interest in Americana music, a writer for a living (but at least he's actually made money as a freelancer), loves the Beat writers, has a crush on Drew Barrymore, and makes bad puns. Things that are not making me fall all over him personally are that he's funny, but sometimes tries too hard to be so, he's a litter shorter and chubbier than I go for. Normally, I am into rail thin very tall boys, go fig. However, kudos to him for the fact that he has an teenage son that he has raised by himself since the kid was just under 2yrs, he sounds like a fun dad who has a good relationship with his son, he owns his own house, has a job and some kind of reliable transportation. Wow, did that sound like my standards have gone down?

Anyway, he asked me to go out with him again Sunday night, which I declined in favor of hanging with some friends and watching the Stuperbowl. I thought I might have offended him since he didn't write me back or call me, but he did this morning and sounds like he'd like to go out next week.

I also have five emails to answer on match. One is from a pretty good looking, but pretty darn short guy (which I am short, so it's not a big deal). One is the military guy I've been talking with who asked me to lunch this weekend, but was declined due to L in town. Another is a dork and he's a total dork who looks like my friend Erich, and I am not at all attracted to him. I forget the other one, probably because I wasn't super impressed, and the last one lives in Louisiana and shares similar musical tastes to me.

From L and I talking yesterday, I have also realized that I am in no way ready to have a 'boyfriend' or even be serious about someone. I think I am still too close emotionally to break-up related things and do not want anything serious that might break my heart again. L has advised to write this on my profile, but honestly, who would believe that? I don't say anywhere on there that I am looking for my true love, so I hope that the understanding is dating with a side of interesting things, not an entree of falling in love.